Tuesday, February 03, 2009
Fireproof!
We bought the movie "Fireproof" for our wedding anniversary present. We watched it. It was truly the best movie I have seen this past year. I can't wait for the Love Dare book to come out. I plan to be the first in line to buy it. I pray that Kirk got as much out of it as I did. I could watch it every day. If you are married and haven't gotten to view this movie yet, please do. It is so worth it and helps you see the value and importance of marriage. If you know of a couple who is struggling in their marriage, buy this movie for them....it also would make a great anniversary present for a couple celebrating. It would also make a great wedding or engagement gift for a couple.
Sunday, February 01, 2009
17 Years Later....
Many of you don't know this but Kirk and I met 17 years ago on Dec 11th (started talking on the phone around the 1st of Dec), 1991. We were engaged to be married by Jan 1st (he took me to the lake in Kirkland, to a gazebo there...I was facing the lake and it was a moonlit night....he got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife). We were married Feb 1st, 1992. Today we are celebrating 17 years of marriage. Looking back on our marriage, makes me think that society doesn't celebrate the marriages of those around them...be it 1 day, 1 month, 1 year or 100 years. The only time we take the time to celebrate a marriage is usually the 10th, 25th, 50th and 75th anniversary with our friend and family. Other than that most people seem to think wedding anniversaries are something to be privately celebrated between the husband and wife. I feel that if we as a society celebrated friends and families marriages each day, week, month and year with them by words of love and encouragement...there probably be more couples who had the support that is needed to make a marriage work and less divorce.
Yes, a marriage can make it but I feel that a support group of loving friends and family (even they themselves have suffered a loss of a marriage) is one of the best resources that God has given to us. Marriage isn't prefect by any means and it is something that needs to be worked on every minute of every day. Kirk and I have had our fair share of arguments. Not every day is a honeymoon....heck some months are even far from that. But we work at it because it is important to us and we love each other. I know I hear people drift apart and fall out of love with one another, but there are ways to bring them back together and help them fall in love with each other all over again...and sometimes that means those loving friends and family members have to support and encourage them.
I am also a firm believer that children should participate in some part of their parents Anniversary day, it helps to show them that marriage is sacred, special and something worth working on every minute of every day even when the going gets hard. Granted you should be showing them that all the time, but they also should be able to celebrate this special day when their dad married their mom and they became one. Trust me, I can tell you that I have been through hard in my marriage and when I said for better and worse, richer and poorer and in sickness and health...I meant it! I almost became a widow in 2004, when Kirk was pinned between semi truck and a trailer, this accident cost him his left arm and left him with a damaged back. The next year and a half was a very hard time in our marriage, there were days when we wanted to give up, throw in the towel but we meant those vows we said all those years ago. Marriage isn't something to take lightly or something to put on when it suits one, it is something to work on, to strife to make that best thing that ever happened to them and ever will. Of course, there are some exceptions to every rule, abuse of any type being one of them. Don't ever take someone hurting you. You have a right and deserve better.
In a lot of countries where marriages are arranged, marriages are viewed as an investment not only to the couple getting married but also to their family and friends. Did you know that over 60 % of marriages in the world are arranged marriages. Now granted not everyone of those marriages (probably a good precentage) are less than desirable marriages but even if they are less than desirable they are very unlikely to divorce, they seek the counsil of their family and friends to do everything possible to make it work. My point here is that we who are able to choose our spouse don't tend to take the view that marriage is an investment and very most likely neither do our family and friends. Of course this is just my 2 cents on this subject, it just is hard to know that the divorce rate is high. Over 1 million children will be effected by divorce this year and over 60% of them will be children under 6 years of age. These were recent satistics that I heard on a news report. Shocking isn't it? Please work on your marriage, do everything possible to save it and quit acting like it is some old purse you can throw and buy another to replace it when it doesn't suit you or isn't fashionable any more.
Yes, a marriage can make it but I feel that a support group of loving friends and family (even they themselves have suffered a loss of a marriage) is one of the best resources that God has given to us. Marriage isn't prefect by any means and it is something that needs to be worked on every minute of every day. Kirk and I have had our fair share of arguments. Not every day is a honeymoon....heck some months are even far from that. But we work at it because it is important to us and we love each other. I know I hear people drift apart and fall out of love with one another, but there are ways to bring them back together and help them fall in love with each other all over again...and sometimes that means those loving friends and family members have to support and encourage them.
I am also a firm believer that children should participate in some part of their parents Anniversary day, it helps to show them that marriage is sacred, special and something worth working on every minute of every day even when the going gets hard. Granted you should be showing them that all the time, but they also should be able to celebrate this special day when their dad married their mom and they became one. Trust me, I can tell you that I have been through hard in my marriage and when I said for better and worse, richer and poorer and in sickness and health...I meant it! I almost became a widow in 2004, when Kirk was pinned between semi truck and a trailer, this accident cost him his left arm and left him with a damaged back. The next year and a half was a very hard time in our marriage, there were days when we wanted to give up, throw in the towel but we meant those vows we said all those years ago. Marriage isn't something to take lightly or something to put on when it suits one, it is something to work on, to strife to make that best thing that ever happened to them and ever will. Of course, there are some exceptions to every rule, abuse of any type being one of them. Don't ever take someone hurting you. You have a right and deserve better.
In a lot of countries where marriages are arranged, marriages are viewed as an investment not only to the couple getting married but also to their family and friends. Did you know that over 60 % of marriages in the world are arranged marriages. Now granted not everyone of those marriages (probably a good precentage) are less than desirable marriages but even if they are less than desirable they are very unlikely to divorce, they seek the counsil of their family and friends to do everything possible to make it work. My point here is that we who are able to choose our spouse don't tend to take the view that marriage is an investment and very most likely neither do our family and friends. Of course this is just my 2 cents on this subject, it just is hard to know that the divorce rate is high. Over 1 million children will be effected by divorce this year and over 60% of them will be children under 6 years of age. These were recent satistics that I heard on a news report. Shocking isn't it? Please work on your marriage, do everything possible to save it and quit acting like it is some old purse you can throw and buy another to replace it when it doesn't suit you or isn't fashionable any more.
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